Keep It or Let It Go

Keep It or Let It Go

I was still trying to fit myself into a box, squeezing within its tiny walls, forcing my feminine flow to conform to convention. I don’t fit. I’m not alone. We try to though, and constrict ourselves in the process. That’s what I was doing, still denying my fluid feminine to fit the way our more conventional society likes to see things done.

I’ve longed for the feminine arts to be valued in our culture and in my life the way my heart knows they deserve. The flow of beauty and love that pours through in the arranging and decorating of a home, the care-filled making of a sweetheart’s lunch, the devotional baking of a cake. I feel it in my mom’s sewing, her love coming through. Everyone feels it when they touch something she’s made.

Recently I gave an intuitive reading that became the gateway for a fascinating thread of discovery. The reading was difficult for me. The woman was guarded, and it held back the free flow of psychic information, making it less enjoyable for both of us.

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Inclusion & Empowerment

Inclusion & Empowerment

I am all for feminine empowerment and women strong, so much so that I resonate with being a feminine warrior to the point of putting it on my business card as a job title. I feel it intensely right now, the powerful feminine, in the immense web of women holding hands under the surface in the unseen, stretched across the globe, together rising to meet what needs to be met for the sake of our children, ourselves and the planet.

I feel intensely too the pain of separation and exclusion. I feel it in national pride and patriotism, in places where it’s meant to bring feelings of inclusion and love. To me it feels like exclusion and separateness, and brings me to a deep sadness. The world’s people are good. We miss that when we close in too tightly in protection of “our own”. Let’s travel the world and feel the hearts of her people, and we will want to wrap our arms around them too.

I feel the separateness in the feminine movement. Even though we say, yes, also the feminine in men, who we exclude are the good men. There are good men. Great men. All around us.

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Women and Friendship

Women and Friendship

“Choose a woman who chooses you” were words spoken by David Deida in reference to intimate partnership. I’m finding them really helpful in the context of female friendship.

One of the reasons I’ve noticed that friendships between women can go awry is not at all in a lack of love or caring, but in a difference of visions for the relationship. Just like in intimate partnership, when one person “wants more” than the other, expectations can unconsciously be created. Maybe we should treat friendship a tiny bit more like partnership where we discuss each woman’s vision early on for how she’d like to see the relationship develop. This could clear up a whole mess of misunderstanding about where friendships “are going”.

Lifestyle and family obligations play a huge role, as does the number of deep friendships someone already has in close proximity. For example, if a woman has many close friends nearby and a busy family life with lots of demands on her time, she may not have the desire or space to form another deep bond.

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Guilt & Obligation

Guilt & Obligation

I'm noticing that guilt and obligation seem to be common themes right now, for me and other women. We still have huge access to move stuff, by the way, so now's a really good time to look at this.

If we're motivated by guilt and obligation, we may not even see them. They are sneaky devils that hide under the surface. If they are there, what we're NOT in touch with is how we might already be getting what we want. They can obscure our sight so entirely that we can't see what we have already.

We also can be blocking pleasure with them, and enjoyment of what is and what could be. The guilt and obligation are just vibrations of feelings, but they can ruin the rest of it. Even just noticing that we feel them can help shift them out of the way.

So, if you feel drawn to, go on your own little feelings treasure hunt to see if you find guilt and obligation demons. Love them. Ditch them. Thrive. That's how it feels for me right now, anyway. Happy hunting!

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