Ideal Family Ratio

Ideal Family Ratio

I’ve decided that the ideal family ratio is 3 to 1, three adults and one child.

Last week we had friends from Australia stay with us, a wonderful couple, Ryan and Rachel, and their 10 ½ month old daughter, Clara. Amazing people. Total cutie baby. Really fun. Ryan could only stay the weekend, and Rachel and Clara for the rest of the week. What I noticed is not based at all on traditional gender roles because any one of us could have done most of the tasks, but this is how it naturally flowed between Andrew, Rachel, Clara and me…

Andrew worked. He brought in the majority of the income to support us, took us out for coffees and dinners and kept us content. I supplemented the income, drove us to places to keep us entertained during the days, cooked most of the meals and did the picking up and laundry. Rachel took care of Clara, meeting her every need and being an all-around superstar mom. Clara was Clara, adorable, sweet creature who kept our hearts open, feeling the purity of love in the house that only a baby can bring.

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Guilt & Obligation

Guilt & Obligation

I'm noticing that guilt and obligation seem to be common themes right now, for me and other women. We still have huge access to move stuff, by the way, so now's a really good time to look at this.

If we're motivated by guilt and obligation, we may not even see them. They are sneaky devils that hide under the surface. If they are there, what we're NOT in touch with is how we might already be getting what we want. They can obscure our sight so entirely that we can't see what we have already.

We also can be blocking pleasure with them, and enjoyment of what is and what could be. The guilt and obligation are just vibrations of feelings, but they can ruin the rest of it. Even just noticing that we feel them can help shift them out of the way.

So, if you feel drawn to, go on your own little feelings treasure hunt to see if you find guilt and obligation demons. Love them. Ditch them. Thrive. That's how it feels for me right now, anyway. Happy hunting!

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Accessing Epiphanies

Accessing Epiphanies

I've been noticing that, during these intense times, we have even more access to powerful epiphanies about our lives and paths and greater access to ourselves. Here are three ways that have popped up for me that you can use too, kind of like treasure hunting:

1) Look to your cyclical learning. These are the lessons that keep showing up in life in new ways, that are repeating now. These are guideposts that show you what you need to see. They reveal what is in the way within ourselves. Uncover as much as you can about your patterns to allow them to shift out of the way.

2) Seek out the company of gentle and patient friends. Together we can actually help each other alchemize the ego parts of us that keep the insights and our true selves hidden. Do this with loving care by opening your hearts and holding space for each other as you share your truths. It may look at times like emotional drama. It's a portal, though, an opening for a false part of us to be shed. If your friend can't stay with you in it, it's ok.

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